“it’s weird for queer minors to be friends with queer adults” oh my god. ohhh my god.
intergenerational community support, especially in a community that is split so much age wise as the queer community, is immensely fucking important. get to know older queers and younger queers. this is how communities frazzle out and die to infighting.
the hypothetical queer adult that people are mad over in the post this is refrencing is 35 years old. only 35.
its weird for any minors to be friends with any adults, queer or not. There should be no reason why unrelated adults or minors should be making close relationships in any sense outside of professional ones. I understand wanting education, but they can be taught when they are adults as well.
is this a joke.
That commenter seems to forget that children are human beings too
Has this person never been involved in hobbies or politics or religion or the arts or any environment that normal people interact in?
I think part of the problem is thinking there’s only one kind of friendship. The friendship I form with a kid is going to look different than a friendship I have with someone my own age or friendship with someone significantly older than me. But that doesn’t mean it’s not friendship. I mean, being kind to each other, talking about similar interests, giving each other support and advice when needed— these are good things, and there may be another type of relationship you could term this, but I think friendship works just as well.
Unless you’re the type of person who thinks that friends will inevitably take advantage of each other, or that a friendship always has potential to turn into a relationship. Because those are the circumstances where you would need to watch out with an adult becoming friends with a kid.  But just because those bad apples exist, doesn’t mean you should cut down all the apple trees. 
I think they’re the type of person who thinks all adults are looking to take (sexual) advantage of any person younger than they are, and can literally not fathom the concept of a community made up of people across all ages interacting with each other as being healthy, despite that being the standard way of living throughout pretty much all cultures throughout all of history.
They’re really going to have problems when they eventually graduate into the working world and have no idea how to socialize with most of the people around them.
Never mind that, you know, if a queer kid's parents kick them out for being queer, it's probably good if they have SOME other safe adults in their lives who might have, like, a couch they can crash on?
My adult friends were the ones who took me out to lunch when my dad died and told me they’d been there too, and what it was like. They mentored me in math and volunteer work and my job. One drove me to synagogue every week and added me to her family plan. They have life experience that no one my age could dream about—my tap teacher was even in the original Broadway cast of Hello, Dolly! I absolutely love my friends who are my age, but they’ve never asked me to help them name a hurricane.
I’ve only felt unsafe with adults a few times in my life, and I could see the danger signs BECAUSE I had much experience with good adults. Having adult friends throughout my childhood helped me learn how to be a good adult, too.
Knowing different kinds of people helps you grow and understand who you want to be. If I didn’t have so many good influences from my (adult) friends, I might have turned out a very different person. I’m forever grateful to them.
I feel like people like that fainting goat up there also don't understand that when older folks make friendships with younger ones we're like.... Kind of adopting you? It's not a "you are my child" kind of adopting but it IS the "it takes a village" adoption the same as when a toddler comes up to us at a park- I'm not responsible for you all the time but I am going help guide and protect you at this time. You're a person I want to help grow and become a happy healthy adult. When we talk about "age appropriate explanations" we're.not JUST talking about how do you explain gay people to a 3 year old. We're also talking about how do you help a teenager through their first heartbreak (which is the worst heartbreak they've ever experienced), or how do you pick a major that will both give you a job and make you happy. You are, for whatever moment of time we are friends, a small part of my family.
Yeah, this too. And when you’re queer there’s an additional cultural element to it. Like—if you’re Black, your parents and family will teach you about Black culture and community. If you’re Jewish, your parents and family will teach you about Jewish culture and community. If you’re trans…the odds you have further trans family are statistically pretty low. So where do you learn about queer community? FROM OLDER QUEER FRIENDS.
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